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Another Tough Box To Build (post #156636)

oldusty on Sun, 09/12/2010 - 08:02

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All ,

As a cabinetmaker I have had many requests fto build odd and interesting and even outragious things , as well as Caskets and Cremation containers .

A few years back My Father in law and good friend passed and I was asked by the family to make the container / box that was very hard for me to do , emotionally I guess .

This last week a young couple we are close with lost an infant Daugther at 5 months old . We had just had a visit from them the day before . My Son' best friend is the father , Son asked me yesterday if I would make a box for Her ashes .

The thought is so very hard to wrap my head around of this seemingly senseless loss of a young Angel.

I dug as deep as I could but could find few words of wisdom for anyone except for how fragile life is .

regards , dusty

Dusty, It's both a burden (post #156636, reply #1 of 6)

by joinerswork in reply to oldusty [original] on Sun, 09/12/2010 - 08:30

Dusty,

It's both a burden and a terrific honor to be tasked with building the final repository for another's earthly remains. One feels the highest resposibility to do one's best work on such a commission.

Best regards,

Ray

Ray , The (post #156636, reply #4 of 6)

by oldusty in reply to joinerswork [original] on Fri, 09/17/2010 - 07:22

Ray ,

The service was yesterday , I still feel like I got punched in the stomach .

I know you understand from a personal level even deeper than I but Thank You for your words of wisdom .

This baby came 2 months early we didn't know why then .

regards ,d

Ahh dusty, there aren't any (post #156636, reply #6 of 6)

by joinerswork in reply to oldusty [original] on Fri, 09/17/2010 - 18:53

Ahh dusty,

there aren't any words, or explanation that I know of. The nearest I get here and now, is the words from Blest be the Tie that Binds: The fellowship of kindred minds, is like to that above. We can only hope.

Best,

Ray

boxes (post #156636, reply #2 of 6)

by RalphBarker in reply to oldusty [original] on Sun, 09/12/2010 - 13:41

It's particularly sad when a child dies. But, I agree with Ray - concentrate on the honor involved in being asked to make the box. My neighbor friend (and woodworking buddy) did one for his father who passed a while back. He worked on the Apollo LEM (Lunar Excursion Module) and was a Mason, hence the lid decoration.

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Ralph , eef (post #156636, reply #5 of 6)

by oldusty in reply to RalphBarker [original] on Fri, 09/17/2010 - 07:24

Ralph , eef ,

Thank You .

regards, d

hi dusty, couple of years (post #156636, reply #3 of 6)

by Eef in reply to oldusty [original] on Sun, 09/12/2010 - 16:08

hi dusty,

couple of years ago my wife, sister-in-law and i were witness to the passing away of their mother. during the course of making the burial arrangements i was asked to make the box for her ashes. all during the making of it, thoughts of "the fragility of life" occupied my head. in some way these thoughts were fueled by the fact that what i was spending so much time and effort to make would shortly find it's way into the ground, never to be seen again. on the way to the church little thoughts of getting praise for my craftsmanship were stirring inside me. what a joke. there were so many flowers piled around my "creation", one could not even discern a hint of the box and very few words of admiration came my way. all in all it was a delightful blow to my little puffed up ego.

it was an honor to get to make the thing.

eef